Single, Busy and Proud!

Below is the list of things you can do while waiting for your Princess or Prince Charming. This might give you an idea why some people are staying single for a long time or literally made a personal decision to stay single or be a blessed single forever. I can't blame them. I honestly thought I would be a blessed single myself.

Here is the check list:

1.) Improve Thy Self

I am talking about your personality and perception in life. Search for the 'Better You' instead of searching Mr. Right. There are tons of Christian Self-Help book you may read such as "Become a Better You" By Joel Osteen and "Battlefield of the Mind" by Aunt Joyce Meyer and "A Woman and Her God" by Aunt Elizabeth Moore. I know some of you would prefer reading romantic chick flick novels like "Twilight" and "Hunger Games" but honestly, these books can not really make you a better person but are only teaching you to be someone that does not really exist. Come to think of it, these books are only in the Fiction section. Get it?

2.) Sharpen Thy Skills

If talent runs in your blood then why won't you take extra lessons to hone your skills? Don't be content by merely imitating someone. Be the one who rocks. If you have a niche in singing, acting, drawing, cooking, baking, dancing, playing musical instruments, writing, photography, beat-boxing or surfing then start somewhere. Join interest clubs, organizations or community groups to help you improve. You are never too young (or old) to start something.

3.) Spread the Love

I am not convincing you to be an extrovert but at least get out from your nutshell and let other people know that you are alive, existing and let them know that you love them. Enough with the 'emo style'. Put down your headphones and communicate with another human being. Ask your friends how are they doing. Surprise a friend (not your crush!) with a message, a tweet or maybe a post card. If it doesn't hurt you much, make new friends. Hug your mom, dad, uncles and aunty. Make coffee for everyone at home. Give your dog a walk and play with him/her in the park. Invite your sibling(s) to hang out. Just get out from your 'cave'.

4) Be a Volunteer

Be part of a community organization to help out the less fortunate. Start in your own school and/or church. You really don't have to be a super hero to help. Just lend your time and hands. Don't wait until you get a job and become rich. Ironically, you won't have the time and resources by then (Laugh out loud). You are already blessed so simply ignite the fire in you. It's time to shine!

The Classic LCM

He walks in the room and you don't know if you need to fix your hair or your breath still smells like peperoni and onion. He says 'hi' to everyone he meets in the room and even it's too crowded, he managed to go beside you while you pretend he's not there and staying busy. You smell a familiar cologne and the idea that he is looking at you and he fixes your hair to see your eyes is making you smile up to your ears.

Is that Love? Does normal friends do that? You keep asking yourself but the answer does not matter for now. You love that he's there beside you and not with other girls. You stop pretending to be busy and quickly you say 'hi' and say 'how long have you've been here?' though you've been looking at your watch and checking your phone if he texted or made a call.

Can love really wait? How long should you wait? How can you wait?

Maybe you have met someone in that scenario. You guys are friends but you feel that something special is happening between you two -- and you guys are young. What are you going to do?

To give you an idea, LCM stands for Love, Courtship and Marriage. Some have already added the letter F which means Friendship. There are heaps of Christian books about this topic and I agree with them that you stay virgin and pure for your one and only. Also, I hope you can consider some points. Plainly speaking:

1) You guys can wait and stay friends but that does not mean you stop talking to each other and have fellowship. Stay connected but not clingy. Try to meet some other people and avoid making him the center of your universe;

2) While in waiting, try to make some research. Conduct a survey by asking your parents, married siblings, cousins and people close to you on how they met and fell in love;

3) And while waiting and getting busy with school and other priorities in life, you might end up discovering that you guys are perfectly together as friends. Never ever speak ill about her/him if in case she/he drifted away. You guys are just friends and it's good you stayed that way then let go.

4) Avoid bashing bitterness on Facebook, Twitter, etc. It might be hard to some but I hope you can try your best and cry it all to God who loves you more than ever. If it helps, share this to someone you trust and pray for you.

I hope you'll appreciate being good friends and treating each other with high respect as brothers and sisters. Most of us have regrets doing things our own way and got tired of waiting at some point. Keep close to God and never abandon your relationship with Jesus. You'll never know if you'll be meeting your Princess or Prince Charming soon.

And lastly, Enjoy waiting! There are so many things you can do while single! Xxoo